Acknowledging my English teacher Mrs. Thornton who contributed to my passion for the written works…

About Mrs. Thornton

After 22 years I get the chance to acknowledge one of my most favorite teachers in the world. Even after all these years Mrs. Thornton still stands out as one of the kindest most righteous teachers I have ever known. I am Sarah Al Khajah and I’m from the United Arab Emirates. I joined ACST in 1993. I was in the seventh grade and I was a very shy and quiet 13 year old. I remember being so nervous in my first English class with Mrs. Thornton even though the rest of the students seemed laid back and at ease. I sat rigid, motionless just staring at my new teacher following her every word and her every move. Sitting there completely silent and wide eyed I remember Mrs. Thornton pausing in the middle of her lecture, she looked at me and asked me in front of everyone “Do you understand?” I think in my effort to appear studious and concentrated and being so nervous I appeared a little lost and overwhelmed haha… totally not the impression I wanted to give. As the weeks passed by I became more at ease and comfortable in her class and I understood why everyone else was, because that’s how you eventually felt in Mrs. Thorntons class, you felt safe and at ease. I never felt that way in any other class before, Mrs. Thornton had this calm, motherly and safe aura around her whenever she taught us and where ever she went.

The things I learned in Mrs. Thornton’s English class weren’t just academic but character building as well. She didn’t just teach from the books she taught from the heart. Mrs. Thornton was passionate about English and literature and that passion resonated in class and kept us captivated.

Thinking back to my English lessons, I never understood the concept of keeping a reading journal but today I wish my children kept one as well in their school. I always liked to read but in Mrs. Thornton’s class I read with passion. One of her most famous quotes was: “A good reader is a good writer,” and that motivated me to read even more. I learned the different symbols used to edit writing and I learned the proper methods of bibliography.. things that I wish kids learned more of today.

All I can say is I wish more teachers taught the way Mrs. Thornton taught. It actually saddens me that in today’s technologically crazed, iPad obsessed, fast paced generation, children lack the basic tools and motivation required for reading and writing properly. I find myself at parent teacher conferences constantly referring to my old teachers and comparing them to my children’s current ones. I would always recount the way I was taught by my former teachers such as Mrs. Thornton as opposed to the way they are taught today.. With Mrs. Thornton we were the golden generation of students receiving only educational excellence.

Mrs. Thornton if you are reading this I want you to know I am who I am today, a passionate reader, writer and mother because of you. After grade 11 my family moved to Brussels, Belgium. The English teachers there were impressed by my writing and most of the books we were assigned to read I had already read years before with Mrs. Thornton. English class was just too easy after her and my writing assignments were always praised and read out loud. I owe all that to you Mrs. Thornton.

I am glad I had the honor to be one of Mrs. Thornton’s students. We read and wrote things beyond our years which made us wiser and better learners. Teachers today could learn a lot from teachers such as Mrs. Thornton. Thank you Mrs. Thornton and bless you for everything.

My UAE

In a country so new and so grand it is inevitable all the attention it receives by several media outlets, tabloids and other countries. For it is only those countries and those people who are exemplary and stand out and shine that get the most scrutiny. Yet, if modern times add to that the pandemic we are still struggling with has taught us anything at all it is that we cannot always rely nor trust everything we read or even see… With all the new technological advancements today and social media platforms one should always ask him/herself first “does this even make sense?” before adhering to what is being told.

This month I spread awareness over an issue that affects me personally. An issue regarding the misrepresentations and misconceptions circulated about my country the United Arab Emirates by several international media channels and outlets. Media in the West specifically purposely try to demonize, belittle and sensationalize news and facts about my country. The whole world is in awe at how and why we are the great country we are today and cannot comprehend all the hard work and effort that goes on behind the scenes. During my travels I get asked a lot about my country by curious bystanders, and I’m more than happy to share with them how and why my country is so great and so advanced, why it is the leading and safest Arab country in the world and why it is amongst the top most modern, most accommodating and most advanced counties in the world.

So in this months entry I defend my country against ridiculous allegations and portrayals by the media in the West specifically. Yes we are a new country that has reached its milestone in less than a century but it wasn’t as easy as those media channels try to portray. The United Arab Emirates has spent billions and trillions of dollars and has taken many risks while keeping its citizens a priority to ensure the progression into what it is today. We never deny that our great grandfathers lived a humble life in the hot desert sands working as fishermen, or in trade and pearl diving to earn a living. We have paid our dues and still are to achieve this standard of modernity and success. However certain media channels being followed by the masses are unfortunately just sensationalizing our entire community which the majority of today are expatriates and not even UAE nationals. Many media outlets make the United Arab Emirates look like it is the country of easy money and the filthy rich or otherwise the underprivileged and abused. This is a common and ridiculous misconception. We are a proud country and a proud people yet the majority of us just like all other people around the world do work very hard to afford a comfortable life and a lot of people are overworked and live paycheck to paycheck as well just like elsewhere in the world.

So be selective in what you observe, what you read, what you digest and who you follow. For consciously or unconsciously we become what we feed our minds and our bodies. Do your own research before following the masses in any subject and specifically regarding my UAE and understand that a lot of the media is only portraying and exaggerating certain aspects of my country and not the whole… And this is another price we pay for being so famous and so grand.

So watch what you see, read or hear, trust your instincts and do your research. Have a great February and many thanks for taking the time to read my humble entries.

Much love!

Happy 2022

As we share our happy moments and take pictures of joy and as we welcome the new year with open arms let us take a moment to pray and remember those less fortunate than us. Those whose year was spent in war, instability, famine and loss… let’s aspire to be better people and to be of better service to those around us, for our happiness cannot be complete with the suffering of others. Let us not take another year for granted and let’s truly appreciate all that we have for there are those who are living with much less. May God continue to bestow upon us his many blessings while reminding us to stay humble and grateful, and may the almighty forgive us when we forget and make the material world our main concern.
Happy New Year 🤍

The 50th!

December is always a memorable month to cheer

With this specific year being incredibly so dear

Marking my country, the United Arab Emirate’s 50th year

I share my entry as from my eye escapes a tear.

A country that is so young and yet also so grand

United and strong we shall always and forever stand.

With faith and determination we shall continue to persevere

Modern yet devoted to traditions so dear.

From amongst the hot, golden sands you can see our honorable ancestors pose

Side by side with our founding father Sheikh Zayed (may he Rest In Peace) they chose

To pledge allegiance to love and to nurture this land like a precious rose.

A vision, a dream, a wish from the heart genuine and sincere

Our country has become a testament to honor and for all the world to cheer.

No matter how much I ponder or how many words I could write

I could never do justice to all this beauty and love in sight.

With what took hundreds of years for other countries to achieve

We proudly present to you the future in just fifty years..

Sky scrapers, warm desserts and deep blue sees are not an imagination

The United Arab Emirates is not just a land it is the best of all nations!

A Post On Gratitude

ولَك الحمد ربي أضعاف ما ارتوينا من نعيمك …

As life slowly drifts back to normal like a cool, winter wave washing upon the sandy shore, smoothing down the coarse sand, I ponder upon the little things that we took for granted before. Traditions such as family gatherings which I considered ordinary and mundane, children’s birthday celebrations or going to the gym and so on… Today those little things have new meaning and now I anticipate them with eagerness and joy.

So this months entry is about gratitude and appreciation of the little things we once thought were ordinary that today we realize are of tremendous value. I am finally at peace with my life and I spread forgiveness and acceptance for all that’s gone and I appreciate and anticipate all that is to come. Tonight as I sip my camomile tea I reminisce upon the little things and the big things in my life that bring me joy to remind myself and you that there’s beauty and love all around us.

Things that bring me joy…

Simply being born a Muslim…

Hearing the call for prayer early dawn reminding me to give thanks to a God who is all mighty and compassionate.

Enjoying the morning sunrise & cool breeze on my garden swing while I reminisce upon all my blessings and recite my morning prayers…

Reading my weekly verses of the Quran as I observe the messages written within intended just for me. Messages of promise and comfort that God is watching over me, protecting me and is all merciful and all forgiving.

The smell of my morning coffee as it is poured into my favorite mug…

Motherhood and the smell of babies and holding them in my arms…

Hugging and waving my children goodbye as they hurry off to school and missing them the second they step out the door…

Appreciating my husband’s hard work and his determination to provide us with a comfortable life…

Family that feel like friends & friends that feel like family…

Homemade jam, cheese and freshly baked bread…

Flowers and scented candles…

Yoga and meditation…

Taking care of my mind, body and soul and knowing that it is important and necessary to care of myself and then others…

The luxury of being my own boss and planning my own week…

The joy of reading and escaping within the written world…

The sight of books especially on my night stand gives me comfort as they help me unwind at night…

Long drives with nothing but music, beautiful scenery & city lights…

Date nights with hubby…

Brunch with friends…

Picnics on the beach and desert barbecues…

Sea shells & the sound of waves… as it always was and still is a dream of mine to live by the sea…

The pleasure of having and still being connected to my parents and realizing as a parent myself the tremendous effort and sacrifice they made to make sure I was happy growing up. And they still do…

Growing internationally yet nurtured traditionally…

Nightly phonecalls to my father and being comforted that he’s alright and that he’s only a phone call away…

My parents beautiful new home and knowing there’s still room for me there…

My cat for there’s nothing like the unconditional love and trust of an animal you care for… she’s my fourth baby..

Ice cream, hot chocolate, affogatos and the traditional cafe viennois…

Dressing up for a special occassion…

Jewelry; a diamond is a girls best friend…

Traditional, Arabian gold with designs that tell a story of the past…

The magical & mystical scent of oud and Arabic incense…

Shopping & brands… I’ll admit…

Photos and photo albums that capture our best memories forever…

Holidays & traveling with the excitement and the anticipation of the adventure ahead…

Hotel breakfasts & room service…

Sipping my morning coffee in a new city…

Beauty & spa treatments…

Simply being a woman… and especially from the UAE

The aroma of biryani and traditional Arab dishes which always take me back home no matter where I am or how far….

The ability to care and show compassion to those less fortunate which makes me realize even more how blessed we are…

Being of service to others and bringing a smile to a friend or a stranger makes me happy

Updating my site as I am now and having a platform in which I can express my thoughts and share my feelings…

“These are a few of my favorite things..” as Julie Andrews sings bursting into melody…

This entry shall be an ongoing one as I continue to remember more blessings around me. I hope this entry can be used as a reference in which we turn to for comfort when we feel overwhelmed by life. I encourage you to make your own list to realize just as I did how much we have and the joy of simply being alive…

الحمدلله على كل نعمة اعتدنا وجودها فنسينا شكرها… الحمدلله دائما و أبدآ

Expo2020

The UAE did it again and dazzled the world with its feature of of this year’s Exp2020. An event that has been tactfully organized and designed since the year 2013 when the vote successfuly fell on Dubai to be the host. Once again the UAE proved to the world that not only is it a global country of progression, inclusion and sustainability but that it acquires an exceptional capability and to host present and deliver the event of an era. This year, Dubai’s Expo2020 was the first of its kind to be held in the Middle East, North Africa & South Asia regions.

A small history on Expos. Expos are global events centered on finding solutions to the challenges facing humanity. Expos offer a journey through a chosen theme by creating engaging and captivating activities. The major event is acclaimed for its ability to gather millions of visitors, create new dynamics and encourage positive change in their host cities. The event this year was an immediate success and my country the United Arab Emirates, once again demonstrated to the world its exceptional ability to not only summon this one of a kind global event to the region but to bring together 192 countries and providing each country its very pavilion; something that was never done in the past. The opening ceremony was a breathtaking world wide collaboration centering upon the glory and the history of a country upon which its city Dubai aims to be the happiest city in the world.

The opening ceremony was specatcular bringing together along with the exemplary local artists, world renowned artists and entertainers such as  Andrea Bocelli, British singer Ellie Goulding and Chinese pianist Lang Lang . The global event emphasized the country’s goal to connect, respect and include diverse minds in creating a more prosperous future. Expo2020 in Dubai sends the message to the world that we are a civilisation with deep roots that recognizes the importance of including various civilizations in order to create a centre for innovation, advancement and creativity.

The logo of Expo2020 couldn’t be more beautiful and suiting. It was inspired by an ancient golden artifact found at a UAE archaeological site called Saroug Al Hadeed; an area between the capital Abu Dhabi and Dubai. The golden artifact belonged to a civilization that existed 4,000 years ago. The choice of an authentic, historical Emirati artifact as the inspiration for the logo of Expo 2020 further portrays the country’s history and connection to ancient civilisations. The symbol of the artifact once again proclaims that the United Arab Emirates continues to be a hub that connects the world. Sheikh Mohammad Bin Rashid, Vice President and Prime Minister of the United Arab Emirates couldn’t have phrased it better when he stated that “The UAE may not be the whole world but it is the world within a country.”

Everything was specacular. However if I were to choose one thing I believe could have been done differently in the opening ceremony it would be the choice of the background of the little girl centering the show. An 11 year old Belarusian girl was selected to portray a local, traditional, Emirati girl. As talented and charismatic the 11 year old was, stunningly dressed in a festive Emirati gown adorned with traditional, gold jewelry. Does prioritizing a non local girl for a local girls part indicate our inclusivity and equality with people of different ethnicities or have we perhaps taken that effort a little too far? I believe my country’s significant and proud heritage could have been better represented and restored by one of our many equally talented and well rounded local children be it a girl or a boy. A girl from the very own country hosting such a global event could have sent a more authentic portrayal of the country which already went as far as to invite international artists to compliment that. There will always however be various observations and differences of opinion to such colossal projects and this is just my humble observation as an Emarati woman proud and attached to her country and all that our heritage entails. I am deeply honored and humbled to be from a country that can look beyond boundaries and can accommodate such various international talents even when it came to the very core of its opening ceremony. My nation is a testament to our rich heritage of generosity, hospitality and kindness. Do I wish the girl was local yes out of the love for my lovely country and its people, do I understand why a different choice was made? perhaps. Overall the event that we have been impatiently waiting for since the past 8 years exceeded expectations proving to the world once again the exceptional capabilities, dedication and legacy of the United Arab Emirates, a country rich in history, hospitality and tradition reaching world wide recognition.

Growing Old Gracefully

Lately I’ve been quite mesmerized by old age. I observe all the elderly people around me and I start to see past their outer exterior and into their vulnerable interior. I watch the elders with their sagging, feeble bodies, their bones protruding, their eyes hollow and wary of every step they take in case they fall. The wrinkles on their faces tell a thousand stories from the glory of the good old days and the marvels of an era. Their pride prevents them though from reaching out to us admitting they need assistance, for how could they? Weren’t they the ones who raised, fed and bathed us when we were young? Weren’t they the ones who taught us how to walk and talk and took us to school? Wasn’t it them who comforted us when we cried? What kind of cruel world is it that now it is they who need our comfort and support? How could they reveal their struggles now in fulfilling their basic matters of daily life to us? So they shudder and stutter and go about their daily routines trying to maintain their dignity by refusing to admit they need any help. In their eyes and in their feeble bodies I see pain, fear and a great yearning. Yearning for their families, yearning for their youth, yearning for us to understand their struggles without uttering a word.

So this month I dedicate this entry to our fathers, mothers, grandparents and great grand parents. To the old man selling spare parts across the street and the old woman sweeping the floors at the school. I dedicate this entry to the elders at the nursing homes, the veterans of war, the heroes of the past and the elders of tomorrow. Today after growing decades myself I watch in silence at what I thought was stubborness when it was in fact vulnerability. What I sensed was ego was actually desperation and what I felt was anger was actually fear.. Growing old with grace I realized doesn’t apply to the the physical it’s in the spiritual. It’s in the wisdom of aknowleding that our time here on earth is finite. That a cozy home and to be surrounded by the people we love are the essence of life. That the simple laughter of a child and the warm hand of a son mean the world to us. Our parents and grandparents bodies may be growing old yet their spirits stand true to the test of time. I see it now, I see the grace. I learned that growing old is upholding yourself with honor regardless of the fear. It’s needing your children by your side yet still managing to wave to them goodbye, wondering deep in your heart wether you will get the chance to see them again. Grace is in the acceptance that life was lived fully and that now it is time for the children to live theirs. It’s for letting go and having no regrets, and for finally accepting that you are fallible. It’s for turning to God and for keeping the faith and for never losing hope that God is all merciful and all forgiving.

Our elders are the candle lights burning strong against the force of the winds of time. We will cry tears of blood when they part, and we will wish we stayed that extra hour they asked us to stay, or held them closer when we had the chance. Our elders bodies may part us yet their smiles and their memories and everything they taught us when they raised us continue to live through us as we slowly and gracefully age ourselves.

The Meaning Of Eid

With the recent joyous occasion of Eid I list childhood memories of what Eid meant and entailed to us as children and then as adults.

As Muslims we celebrate two Eids. The first being Eid Al Fitr which is the Feast of Breaking the Fast’ It is a religious holiday celebrated by Muslims worldwide that marks the end of the month-long dawn-to-sunset fasting of Ramadan. While Eid al-Adha is the ‘Feast of the Sacrifice’ honoring the willingness of Abraham to sacrifice his son to Allah however Allah provided a lamb to sacrifice instead. So in commemoration of this, a sheep or lamb is sacrificed ritually with one third of their meat consumed by the family offering the sacrifice, while the rest is distributed to the poor and needy.

With Eid Al Fitr morning enjoying a full filling breakfast after a month of fasting marked the beginning of the celebration and with Eid Al Adha the sacrificial slaughter is taught and sometimes demonstrated to children, teaching them the meaning behind it and how to share the meat with others and why…

Both Eids also start by the soothing, comforting sounds of dawn prayers from the mosques with parents taking their children along to pray.

I recall as a child Eid meant staying up all the night before anticipating Eid day and all the candy and Eidyas (money) one was going to get.

Eid for us as children was the excitement of wearing our fancy Eid clothes matched with fancy bags (to carry all the eidyas in) or wallets and fancy shoes. Eidyas being celebratory money distributed to cheer the children up.

Eid for us girls was blow drying and styling our hairs with fancy sparkly bows and clips and getting away with adding some lipstick and eye pencil and nail polish before being old enough to do so.

Eid was the gatherings of family and friends, distant and close.

Eid was visiting and receiving guests all day mainly in the house of the family elders; usually a grandparents home.

Eid was a feast to eat and a sugar rush of desserts and sweets. Biryani, Lamb, Harees, Thireed, cake, chocolate, aseeda, jelly, fruit salads, ice cream… just to name a few of our traditional dishes.

Eid was paying respect to the family elders and in turn receiving their blessings. Eid was the greeting of cousins and relatives distant or close.

Eid meant greeting each other as well as if we haven’t been seeing each other every day or every week. It’s a funny yet exciting feeling as well.

Eid was the spread of good wishes and kind words. Eid unites us and brings us altogether, making us reach out to one another putting any disputes aside.

Eid is every child’s dream come true as they eagerly count how much “eidya” they’ve collected, spending some of it on presents and toys the next day!

Eid as we grow older becomes more about giving before receiving. Today a child’s excitement and sparkly eyes as they receive a eidya from me takes me back to when I was that child and gives me a warm, fuzzy feeling in my heart.

Eid in short is a rush of wonderful emotions and beautiful memories. Eid is faith, love, laughter and peace.

And to end this simple entry I wish you a Eid Mubarak from my heart to yours ❤️ May it bring you all the joy you’ve been waiting for and more 💐

To my daughter with love…

My dear daughter, my first born, my young lady and my best friend.

On your sweet 16th birthday I write to you this letter. As I look back at our years together I remember how I was much younger when I had you. I still remember the first moments I held you in my arms like it was yesterday. My eyes start tearing and my heart aches with longing as I remember that special day on the noon of May 23rd 2005. It was a bright summer day and my heart gleamed with fondness as I held you in my arms for the very first time. With so much caution I cradled you ever so slowly, learning for the first time how a mother holds her child. You were my newborn and I was your new mom. I knew instantly that you were something much more important and much bigger than anything I’ve seen or experienced in my life. My heart was filled with fondness and a love I never knew existed before I met you. I still remember your tiny, pink face and your delicate little body as your little eyes searched mine. In just a few moments we bonded and we both knew that a new life waited ahead for us as a family. We were inseparable. There were joys and there were tears, you taught me every day how to become a better mother and I nurtured you as you bloomed into the wonderful and beautiful young lady I see today. No one prepared me for just how much I would love you and today on your birthday I wanted you to know that my life has been richer and more meaningful by having you in it. I’m ever so proud and so lucky and so thankful to be your mom and to call you my daughter.

My darling Fatma, I wish you find your path of greatness as I only see great things in your future. You are hard working, mature beyond your age, caring and dedicated in every way. I said this to you before and I say it again you have a gift of excelling in anything you set your heart on wether it is a major school project or pursuing one of your hobbies such as horse riding. However my daughter, while you strive for greatness and success remember to smile and take it easy and enjoy the ride along the way. Know that with great success comes great sacrifice so slowing down and enjoying the path to success can make it much more worthwhile. My dear Fatma you are at an age where you are starting to shape your unique personality and draw your future yet while you do that don’t forget to cherish the present moment. Smell flowers, take walks on the beach, laugh often and enjoy your time with family and friends. While you study hard and think of college, while you are busy growing up fast, remember to enjoy your youth and create lasting memories; for memories are the only things we take with us as we grow older and life passes us by, so lets make sure they are happy ones.

My sweet eldest child whose on her way to adulthood, know that life has it’s ups and downs. That as important as success is that there will be times where we get disappointed and things don’t go as we planned and that’s ok. Remember this, there is no such thing as failure, there is only learning new ways of not doing things. When you get frustrated and things don’t go as you planned, pause, use this as a learning opportunity rather than looking at it as a failure and remember that life is a test and we are constantly learning. Always look on the bright side, and always remain positive and never lose faith. Let your faith be bigger than your fears for God is most merciful and most forgiving. Don’t be too hard on yourself for life is like a heart beat it if there are no ups downs it means you are not living. Just as there is happiness there is sadness, just as there are beginnings there are ends so honor those moments and continue to flourish and learn. However I need you to know this one thing which is that with all of life’s ups and downs my love for you stays constant. I will always be here for you and my love for you only grows bigger and stronger everyday.

Grow wise with patience

Stay strong but tender

Be virtuous yet humble

And enjoy the roller coaster ride of life.

Affectionately,

Your Mama…

23.5.2021

In Honor Of Endings

life seems simple when we are young. We go to school, make friends, get good grades, go to college, get a job and then start our own families. When we are young we feel invincible, in control, full of aspirations. When we do graduate high school we expect to enter a good college, and then when we graduate college we are confident that a decent job awaits us. After securing that job we fall in love believing that that special someone will share the rest of their lives with us and we will live happily ever after. Those are the dreams we grow up believing in as no one teaches us otherwise. So after obtaining that degree and landing that dream job and after we tie the knot with that special someone and start our own families we develop a sense of security. Our positive outlook and young stamina only envisions success and consistency however, slowly and painfully life hits us hard and we learn the hard way that just as there were bright beginnings there are also painful endings. We start facing many challenges and difficulties in life that make us question our very existence and makes us redefine our dreams. What makes the notion of endings so hard is they happen just as we’ve become accustomed to the life we’ve built. We start to realize that in our naive notion of believing that success only leads to success and that a marriage is a union where only death does us part and that our families and friends and our jobs will be there for us forever that nothing in life is ever lasting. In our young naive minds where we felt we were in control, we started taking our partners, our families and our lives for granted never once questioning that they could slip away. We believed that the friends we’ve had since childhood will continue being our friends till adulthood, and that the job we secured for years is financially binding and that the spouse we spent our life with will always be there to support and comfort us. The harsh reality though is that there is no such thing as a lifetime guarantee. That even security doesn’t last and that the greatest regret we form is taking the friends, job or family around us for granted. How much we’ve changed and how much wiser and mature life has made us.

So this months entry is to honor endings. This is an entry to bring to the realization that nothing lasts forever. If we were raised to be prepared that just as things in our lives are beginning they do also end we would never take anything or anyone or any day in our life for granted. With the realization that there is no lifetime guarantee to anything not even health, marriage, jobs or life itself our outlook and approach to life and each other would be very different. We will be better and more understanding partners, we will be more grateful and honest employees and we would be much more patient parents. We will spend that extra hour with our families and we will put down our devices to play another round of hide and seek outdoors with our kids before they grow and head off to start their own beginnings. The little things in life like food on the table and a roof over our heads will become the big things. Our relationships and our communications will rise to another level and we will think twice before going to bed whilst in dispute with a loved one. We will make amends to old friends and we will cherish the new friends and we won’t skip our daily jog around the block. We will master enjoying the present moment cause we will finally realize that that’s the only guarantee we’ve got… the present.

So the next time you receive that job bonus aspire to how you could perform even better the next year to maintain that financial security and when you celebrate that 10th wedding anniversary don’t just go out to dinner, honor each other and think of how to renew your relationship and how to better serve each other in order to maintain a lasting union. When you’re struggling with a friend or a family member that you care about don’t just go to bed upset with them, come up with a resolution; studies have proven that a major indicator for a positive quality of life is the quality of your relationships with others. If we cherish and honor the relationships and achievements we have big and small including our own well-being, the more likely we will be able to face endings with honor rather than with regrets. We will have insured our lives and empowered ourselves by planning ahead in case of an ending. If we make the effort to control and repair the damages done today by vowing to do better and be better tomorrow the more secure our lives would be and the better equipped and the better insured we become mentally and emotionally when facing an ending. Life is extremely fickle and every day someone faces an ending to a job, a friendship, a relationship or life. Honoring endings gives us the insight of how to protect and maintain our personal security from the beginning. This is where self empowerment comes in and where independence, personal stability and self awareness forms. Honoring and preparing ourselves for endings just as we prepare our whole lives for beginnings should be something taught at school. Dealing with grief, dealing with loss, resolving conflicts and realizing downfalls should be made into a curriculum with a section on insurance and resilience. Learning shouldn’t just be about language, maths or science it should also be about life, and a big part of life is dealing with endings. This is something I learned the hard way and I hope to make it easier for my children. I hope we all finally realize how precious yet fickle life is and that contemplating its end seems almost inconceivable when in fact it is the very essence of life itself.