Last month my entry was about honoring yourself and keeping the promises you make within. Like many people I struggle with sticking to my promises to myself sometimes. It’s easier to ditch the gym, procrastinate on my writing, slack on my online classes and organize the house tomorrow. Lately I learned that the ego has a big role to play in that. You see the ego detests and resists change ultimately residing us in the familiar. Even though the familiar may be detrimental to our growth and wellbeing we still seek it because well it’s familiar. We stay in painful relationships, we slack in our work and our duties, we ditch that job opportunity and we avoid that uncomfortable conversation for the sake of the familiar, the status quo.
The ego has such a huge influence on us it even leads to self sabotage. It does that by making us doubt ourselves and our abilities. According to research only 5 percent of our cognition is conscious while the remaining 95 percent is subconscious. The ego is part of the subconscious therefore it makes sense that the ego has a profound influence over the reality we create. Our subconscious has the power to drive us towards our dreams and the power to withhold us from them.
What’s the solution then? Well the solution first starts by being aware of this unhealthy dynamic with our subconscious minds. Being aware of the ego’s role and being aware of our limiting beliefs. Instead of feeling like we will fail at the new job why not consider it a win to even try? Wether we do in fact fail or not at the job or at the new course we are taking it is still a learning opportunity. When you look at it like that, like everything is a learning opportunity then failure doesn’t exist. Awarness should also come in the relationships we are keeping. Are these relationships expanding us or contracting us? Are these relationships making us thrive or are they pulling us back? What is the alternative and do we dare find it? The ego will ultimately tell us to stick to the familiar even if it hurts but our small conscious minds know better.
Awareness also comes in acknowledging the way the ego allows for self sabotage. Keeping us in bed when we’re supposed to get up, keeping us in the same unhealthy relationship, making us believe we are not good enough or smart enough for the job so why bother… and so on… Often times the ego will purposely make us sabotage our relationships and our jobs to fulfill that self professing delusion that we are not good enough.
Everything starts with awareness so while being aware of honoring yourself and the promises you give it let’s also be aware of the self limiting beliefs of the ego. Let’s strive to give more power to that 5 percent of our conscious minds as opposed to the unconscious.
And keep smiling 🙂
La Vie En Rose 